My nerves are shot. They were shot before this most recent fall but they are even worse now. Mark is jumpy too. Every time we hear any kind of clunk we rush to find out what happened. We tell Nathan and Bennett not to jump, run, skip, hop or anything else that requires their feet to be off the ground. We have to make sure all paths are clear at all times so they don't trip over something and we do not allow them to do silly play things like walk backwards or cover their eyes. Forget about showers. Letting Nathan take a shower is very scary. But our nerves have even caused us to forbid Libby from jumping just because our hearts can't take the sound.
Its hard to describe their gross motor delays because they are able to walk and do some scary running. But one single blip and they are on the floor. For example, Bennett was sitting on a seat beside me at the table and needed to be closer to me. Although I warned him and moved very slowly and gently, he completely lost his balance and fell headfirst off the chair. I caught him by the leg before his head hit the floor.
At the top of our stairs we have a gate which we just stopped closing all the time but it still worries me. I imagine one of them being in the hallway upstairs and slipping on a blanket or coming to the edge of the steps to tell us something and falling down, or throwing something down the steps and throwing themselves down with the forward motion. And the door to their room is right at the top of the steps. If they move from room to room up there, they are very close to the edge of the steps. I am never relaxed, constantly checking, rechecking and listening for accidents.
We recently started letting Nathan go up and down the steps without asking us. We need him to be able to take his clothes up and down the steps and put his stuff away like Libby. It is unfair if we do it for him all the time, unfair to him and Libby (and our tired old legs) Anyway now I am back to being nervous about him going up and down the steps and he is seven years old. He has bruises all up and down his leg, on his stomach, back and one on the back of his head. No hematoma yet. It is scary. Our nine year old eyewitness reporter says he did not flip over but he must have if he has marks on his stomach and back. He had socks on so taking his socks off will definitely help but what if his pants are a little to long or he gets distracted (both highly likely).
And now that Bennett is in a "big boy bed" he can get out of bed at anytime which is scary. So I purchased some grippy tape online and although it may be unsightly, I hope it helps. Our other options are moving to a one floor house, reconfiguring the steps or adding on a bedroom for the boys and a family room. That would require much of our small back yard. A one floor house is difficult to find in the size we would need. Many are smaller and geared towards older people looking to downsize. Reconfiguring the steps seems pretty crazy. So hopefully the gritty tape will help. If we had a one floor house, they would still fall.